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==When Should one Visit?==
==When Should one Visit?==
===First 3 Days===
===First 3 Days===
# Many poskim cite the practice not to visit during the first three days after the funeral<ref> This practice is mentioned in Gesher Hachaim vol. 1 page 209, Teshuvot Vihanhagot 4:274:9, Sefer Chesed Shel Emet pg. 415, Nitei Gavriel Aveilut vol. 1:Perek 86. The Gesher Hachaim writes that since this is just a minhag if there are extenuating circumstances one may certainly go during the first three days. Emes LiYaakov pg. 394 writes that the minhag in Lithuania was to allow visiting even on the first day. The Lubavitcher Rebbe (cited in Shaarei Halacha U'Minhag YD 137 is also lenient. see also Teshuvot Vihanhagot 3:377 and 4:274:9) who writes that since the majority of people who just go to show support (and only say "Hamakom Yenachem...") may go at any time. </ref>  
# Many poskim cite the practice not to visit during the first three days after the funeral.<ref> This practice is mentioned in Gesher Hachaim vol. 1 page 209, Teshuvot Vihanhagot 4:274:9, Sefer Chesed Shel Emet pg. 415, Nitei Gavriel Aveilut vol. 1:Perek 86. The Gesher Hachaim writes that since this is just a minhag if there are extenuating circumstances one may certainly go during the first three days. </ref> However, others hold that this is an incorrect practice and one should even within the first three days.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 71) writes that it is a mistaken minhag not to visit the mourner during the first three days and one of his proofs if the Rambam Avel 13:2. Emes LiYaakov pg. 394 writes that the minhag in Lithuania was to allow visiting even on the first day. The Lubavitcher Rebbe (cited in Shaarei Halacha U'Minhag YD 137) is also lenient. See also Teshuvot Vihanhagot 3:377 and 4:274:9 who writes that since the majority of people who just go to show support (and only say "Hamakom Yenachem...") may go at any time. </ref>
 
===Night===
===Night===
# One may visit the mourners even during the night.<ref> Gesher Hachaim vol. 1 page 209, Sh"t Yabea Omer vol. 10 pg. 299</ref>
# One may visit the mourners even during the night.<ref> Gesher Hachaim vol. 1 page 209, Sh"t Yabea Omer vol. 10 pg. 299</ref>