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Fasting on Your Wedding Day

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding.<Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most ~~sephardim~~ don't have this custom.<ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.</ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding.<Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most Sephardim don't have this custom.<ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.</ref>
			# If it is very hard for the chatan or kallah to fast the day of the wedding some say that they do not need to fast. They should try to fast but if they feel weak they shouldn't be stringent and should break the fast.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1 p. 60)</ref>
	# Moroccans generally have the practice that the chatan fasts but not the kallah. If there is a case of need even a chatan can eat.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>		# Moroccans generally have the practice that the chatan fasts but not the kallah. If there is a case of need even a chatan can eat.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>
	#If the wedding is in the morning, some have the minhag is to fast until the chuppah and some fast the day before.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>		#If the wedding is in the morning, some have the minhag is to fast until the chuppah and some fast the day before.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>

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Fasting on Your Wedding Day

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom.<ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding.<Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom.<ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.</ref>
	</ref>		# Moroccans generally have the practice that the chatan fasts but not the kallah. If there is a case of need even a chatan can eat.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>
			#If the wedding is in the morning, some have the minhag is to fast until the chuppah and some fast the day before.<ref>Magen Avot EH 61 p. 57</ref>

	==Holding Hands==		==Holding Hands==

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	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom.<ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.
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Dlhanon: /* Practices for the Week Before */

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Practices for the Week Before

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	==Practices for the Week Before==		==Practices for the Week Before==
	# There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding.There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref>		# There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>Nitei Gavriel(Shidduch and Tenaim pg. 448.
			* This minhag is also mentioned by Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky (Emes Liyaakov EH 65), Orchot Rabbenu part 4: pg. 248 says two weeks
			* There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim.
			* Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married.
			* Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding. There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag.
			* Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref>

	==Links==		==Links==

Dlhanon: /* Fasting on Your Wedding Day */

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Fasting on Your Wedding Day

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, ~~Sh"t~~ Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> The Chida (Birkei Yosef 470:2) writes that the Sephardic minhag is not to fast the day of the wedding. In fact, the Yafeh Lelev 573 adds that the Hari Besamim thinks that it is forbidden to fast since it is a day of celebration for the couple, comparable to a Yom Tov. However, the Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim no. 13) writes that in Baghdad chatanim had the minhag to fast on the day of the wedding. Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer EH 3:9 and Yechave Daat 4:61) discourages the minhag.
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	==Holding Hands==		==Holding Hands==

Dlhanon at 18:44, 16 April 2017

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>

	==Holding Hands==		==Holding Hands==
	# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref>		# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref>

			==Practices for the Week Before==
			# There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding.There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref>

	==Links==		==Links==
	* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky		* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky
	==Sources==		==Sources==
	<references/>		<references/>

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur ~~S"A~~ 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>
	==Holding Hands==		==Holding Hands==
	# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref>		# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref>

YitzchakSultan at 04:22, 15 June 2015

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>
			==Holding Hands==
			# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref>
	==Links==		==Links==
	* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky		* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky
	==Sources==		==Sources==
	<references/>		<references/>

Dlhanon at 02:33, 19 February 2015

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	==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==		==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
	# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>		# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>

			==Links==
			* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky
	==Sources==		==Sources==
	<references/>		<references/>

Dlhanon at 02:31, 19 February 2015

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	# Some have the practice for a bride and groom the week before their wedding not to go outside alone.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, p. 55, 4:5) writes that some chasidim and Ethiopian communities have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone starting from the Shabbat before their wedding. </ref>		# Some have the practice for a bride and groom the week before their wedding not to go outside alone.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, p. 55, 4:5) writes that some chasidim and Ethiopian communities have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone starting from the Shabbat before their wedding. </ref>
	# Some have the practice for a bride and groom the day of their wedding not to go outside alone.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (v. 1, p. 55, 9:13) writes that some chasidim have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone the day of their wedding based on a fear of the dangerous demons mentioned in Brachot 54b. </ref>		# Some have the practice for a bride and groom the day of their wedding not to go outside alone.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (v. 1, p. 55, 9:13) writes that some chasidim have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone the day of their wedding based on a fear of the dangerous demons mentioned in Brachot 54b. </ref>

			==Fasting on Your Wedding Day==
			# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref>
	==Sources==		==Sources==
	<references/>		<references/>